A Benin woman fights with Mother in law in presence of her children

A man has warned men to stay away from Benin women as he witnessed his wife and mother fighting and threatening each other's lives in Italy.

In a photo taken by the husband, the wife, and her mother-in-law are seen exchanging words.


The grandchildren, a little girl, and her older brother looked confused as they watched their mum and grandma fight. The little girl was in tears all through and kept asking her mum why grandma beat her.

The war of words between wife and mother-in-law got so bad that the wife accused her mother-in-law of belonging to "Ogboni" and killing her children. The mother-in-law then threatened to kill the wife since she is accusing her of belonging to a cult.

At this point, the husband speaks up, warning men in Italy not to marry Benin women. He advised them to use his experience as a lesson.

Watch below.

Salary earner will also cry during the lockdown pandemic

I do not intend to scare you but by the time President Muhammadu Buhari speaks to us again to either end the lockdown or extend it, many of us will receive sad news: salaries will not be paid. It will not be because our employers are wicked; it is just that companies are closed and money is not made. Companies that have been operating have not done so at full blast and whatever revenue has been earned is bound to be infinitesimal and incapable of footing bills.

You may wonder why companies will not go into their reserves to cushion the effect of the financial dire strait caused by the pandemic and my response is – many companies in Nigeria are like the Federal Government, with severely depleted reserves, or no reserves at all! They are run based on what I see as ‘run-as-you-go’. If they do not earn money in a particular month, surviving the next month will be like a blind man trying to fix thread into a needle.

Our foreign exchange reserves fell to $34.58 billion on April 7. The reserves had $38.53 billion on January 2. No less than $3.95 billion has been taken away from it in the last three months. The oil price has tumbled to an all-time low and, being a mono-economy, we have no choice than to keep dipping our hands into the reserves. Soon, there may be nothing there again as it is the situation for many businesses in the country. Every government, since we returned to democracy in 1999, has been mouthing diversifying the economy, but this has always ended up as mere campaign sloganeering. No concrete effort is discernible along this line.

The terrible shape of our Almighty black gold is captured in the words of Dr. Sun Xiansheng, the Secretary-General of International Energy Forum: “The global spread of the Coronavirus is creating a demand shock that is impacting the already fragile world energy market balances. Markets are continuing to assess the yet unknown risks of COVID-19 to the global economy as the disease continues to suppress economic activity.

“Low oil prices combined with the inelastic nature of refined product supply and demand is usually a boon to refining margins. However, COVID-19 also impacts downstream profitability caused by erosion in demand. The combination of sustained shocks to supply and demand will cause product inventories to rise to new highs.”

The country this week joined other Organisation of Petroleum Exporting Countries (OPEC) counterparts to cut 9.7 million barrels of supply to raise the price and save countries like Nigeria, which depends on oil cash, from starving.

Minister of State for Petroleum Resources Timipre Sylva said the cut in production would enable the rebalancing of the oil markets and the expected rebound of prices by $15 per barrel in the short term. Good as the expected effect of this decision sounds, its fruit will not be immediate and, even if it is, I do not see it translating into helping stop our tears.

There are fears that the country will soon slip into recession. The last time we went into recession, shortly after Buhari took over the reins of power in 2015, we saw hell. Many companies could not pay salaries for months, and when they eventually started meeting their obligations to their members of staff, it was because investors recapitalized. Recession at a time like this is like jumping from the frying pan to fire. But it does not look like we can avert it.

From what I can see, it is not only transporters and others who earn daily money that is crying or will cry, salary earners will soon cry when at the end of the month, it is either they get half-pay or they are not paid at all. An employer told me during the week that his employees would be paid half salaries. Only the manager, he said, would get fully paid because she had carved a fresh niche for the business without being prompted.

Amid the Coronavirus madness, street gangs – whose sources of income have been cut off – terrorised residents of various parts of Lagos mainland during the week. They wanted money. They wanted food. The people had to take their destinies into their own hands by keeping vigil against them. I fear what will happen when, at the end of the month, workers do not receive bank alerts notifying them of payment of salaries. Bitterness will spread like wildfire and I pray blood does not flow.

In the First World, many employers have informed their employees that they will receive half of their pay for working from home. But there is a difference: governments have come in to make up the losses. In the United States, for example, every taxpayer is getting paid some stimulus package. This covers non-citizens; once you are a legal resident and you pay tax, you get paid some dollars to ease the pain of the loss. If you have children, your kids also get about half of what you are paid. Landlords have also been mandated not to harass their tenants over no-payment or late payment of rents. These may not cover all your losses, but you are not left to bear the losses alone.

Nigeria seems handicapped to offer us real reliefs, except the tokenism that is embarrassingly being shared with those described as the vulnerable. But, in the end, it appears we are all vulnerable, especially salary earners who will in the next two weeks begin to receive the shock of their lives when the bank alerts refuse to come or they come with half or a quarter of their pay.

In the next few days, we will further appreciate the fact that our world has changed and continues to change; we will realise that we do not know this world again; and with our cash flow dwindling, we will get to look at things from sombre perspectives.

My final take: We have always needed one another; we will need one another more in the days to come. Whatever many have stored will dry up and there will be little or no cash to restock. With our kind of banking system – with a ‘sick’ credit system – there will be no money to get basic needs. A credit card would have made a difference like it is doing for folks in the developed world.

Anthony Joshua Names 7 Fighters He Wants To Face Before Retirement

Joshua Names Seven Fighters He Wants To Face Before Retirement

Anthony Joshua has named seven fighters he could face before he hangs up his gloves.

The heavyweight world champion is due to defend his three belts against Kubrat Pulev this summer.

Originally slated for June 20, the clash has been delayed due to the coronavirus crisis which has ground sport to a halt.

But assuming he retains his titles, Joshua will then set his sights on a plethora of rivals.

When asked who he could face, he told Sky Sports: “[Oleksandr] Usyk, [Deontay] Wilder, [Tyson] Fury, [Luis] Ortiz.

“Who else? I think that’s probably the majority. Adam Kownacki, Jarrell Miller… you know, that’s six names.”

Joshua went on to add Dillian Whyte to the mix having beaten his domestic foe in 2015.

“I know he’s been chasing a world title shot. I offered him a world title shot last year in April, he refused it.

“Maybe he wants his hand on the WBC, but if me and Tyson Fury fight, then I know he didn’t want to fight me last year, but he’ll definitely have to fight me this time, if he wants his hands on the WBC belt.

“Once I’ve beaten Tyson Fury, Dillian Whyte can come and get this work as well. It won’t be that good, it will be one-sided.”

Joshua and Fury had hoped to clash at the end of the year but the pandemic looks to have put paid to that prospect.

Fury must first defend his own world title against Wilder in their trilogy clash pencilled in for October 3.

That would push back a potential undisputed fight until February.

https://www.completesports.com/joshua-names-seven-fighters-he-wants-to-face-before-retirement/

Federal Government Begins Disbursement Of Tradermoni In Katsina

Minister of Humanitarian Affairs Disaster Management and Social Development Sadiya Farouq, at the weekend, delivered three trucks of rice to Katsina State as part of COVID-19 palliatives and also started the disbursement of funds to TraderMoni beneficiaries.

The palliatives, according to Farouq, is for the less privileged, vulnerable and people with disabilities, to cushion effects of the lockdown.

Farouq kicked off the disbursement of TraderMoni and MarketMoni to beneficiaries in the state to help them start-up or expand existing micro-businesses.

This is contained in a statement in Abuja on Sunday by Special Adviser to the minister on Media Salisu Dambatta.

Farouq, who was represented by Deputy Director in charge of Disaster Management Dr. Abubakar Sulaiman said 5,000 beneficiaries were approved for TraderMoni in Katsina State.

The minister explained that TraderMoni was a N10,000 loan to traders that depend on daily income, while the N5,000 MarketMoni was for providers of essential services, such as shoe-makers and vulcanisers.

She said the first phase of the Conditional Cash Transfer of N20,000 to the poor and vulnerable households in Katsina had been concluded.

“As at Friday, a total of 428,941 beneficiaries have benefited from the Conditional Cash Transfer in 24 states, with 130,455 of them from Katsina State.”

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Tips for Building a Healthy Relationship

Want to feel beloved and related to your companion? Learn the way to construct and keep a romantic relationship that’s healthy, happy, and satisfying.

Building a healthy relationship

All romantic relationships go through ups and downs they usually all take work, dedication, and a willingness to adapt and change together with your companion. But whether your relationship is just starting out or you’ve been together for years, there are steps you can take to build a healthy relationship. Even if you’ve experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggled before to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment, and enjoy lasting happiness.

What makes a healthy relationship?

Every relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. Part of what defines a healthy relationship is sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the relationship to be and where you want it to go. And that’s something you’ll only know by talking deeply and honestly with your partner. However, there are also some characteristics that most healthy relationships have in common. Knowing these basic principles can help keep your relationship meaningful, fulfilling and exciting whatever goals you’re working towards or challenges you’re facing together.

You maintain a meaningful emotional connection with each other. You each make the other feel loved and emotionally fulfilled. There’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without the partners truly relating to each other emotionally. While the union may seem stable on the surface, a lack of ongoing involvement and emotional connection serves only to add distance between two people.

You’re not afraid of (respectful) disagreement. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to feel safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.

You keep outside relationships and interests alive. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all of your needs. In fact, expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on a relationship. To stimulate and enrich your romantic relationship, it’s important to sustain your own identity outside of the relationship, preserve connections with family and friends, and maintain your hobbies and interests.

You communicate openly and honestly. Good communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people know what they want from the relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between you.

Falling in love vs. staying in love

For most people, falling in love usually seems to just happen. It’s staying in love—or preserving that “falling in love” experience—that requires commitment and work. Given its rewards, though, it’s well worth the effort. A healthy, secure romantic relationship can serve as an ongoing source of support and happiness in your life, through good times and bad, strengthening all aspects of your wellbeing. By taking steps now to preserve or rekindle your falling in love experience, you can build a meaningful relationship that lasts—even for a lifetime.

Many couples focus on their relationship only when there are specific, unavoidable problems to overcome. Once the problems have been resolved they often switch their attention back to their careers, kids, or other interests. However, romantic relationships require ongoing attention and commitment for love to flourish. As long as the health of a romantic relationship remains important to you, it is going to require your attention and effort. And identifying and fixing a small problem in your relationship now can often help prevent it from growing into a much larger one down road. The following tips can help you to preserve that falling in love experience and keep your romantic relationship healthy.

Tip 1: Spend quality time face to face

You fall in love looking at and listening to each other. If you continue to look and listen in the same attentive ways, you can sustain the falling in love experience over the long term. You probably have fond memories of when you were first dating your loved one. Everything seemed new and exciting, and you likely spent hours just chatting together or coming up with new, exciting things to try. However, as time goes by, the demands of work, family, other obligations, and the need we all have for time to ourselves can make it harder to find time together.

Many couples find that the face-to-face contact of their early dating days is gradually replaced by hurried texts, emails, and instant messages. While digital communication is great for some purposes, it doesn’t positively impact your brain and nervous system in the same way as face-to-face communication. Sending a text or a voice message to your partner saying “I love you” is great, but if you rarely look at them or have the time to sit down together, they’ll still feel you don’t understand or appreciate them. And you’ll become more distanced or disconnected as a couple. The emotional cues you both need to feel loved can only be conveyed in person, so no matter how busy life gets, it’s important to carve out time to spend together.

Commit to spending some quality time together on a regular basis. No matter how busy you are, take a few minutes each day to put aside your electronic devices, stop thinking about other things, and really focus on and connect with your partner.

Find something that you enjoy doing together, whether it is a shared hobby, dance class, daily walk, or sitting over a cup of coffee in the morning.

Try something new together. Doing new things together can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going on a day trip to a place you’ve never been before.

Focus on having fun together. Couples are often more fun and playful in the early stages of a relationship. However, this playful attitude can sometimes be forgotten as life challenges start getting in the way or old resentments start building up. Keeping a sense of humor can actually help you get through tough times, reduce stress and work through issues more easily. Think about playful ways to surprise your partner, like bringing flowers home or unexpectedly booking a table at their favorite restaurant. Playing with pets or small children can also help you reconnect with your playful side.

Nigerian oil union suspends industrial action after Exxon Mobil workers freed

YENAGOA, Nigeria (Reuters) - A major Nigerian oil union has suspended planned industrial action after 21 Exxon Mobil Corp. employees quarantined last week after their arrest for violating coronavirus-related movement restrictions were freed, it said on Sunday.

FILE PHOTO: An aerial view shows waterways in the city of Port Harcourt, in Rivers State, Nigeria June 19, 2017. Picture taken June 19, 2017. REUTERS/Paul Carsten/File Photo

The governor of southern oil hub Rivers State, Nyesom Wike, on Friday said Exxon Mobil workers were arrested after entering the state from neighbouring Akwa Ibom State in violation of an executive order restricting movement into the state as part of measures imposed last month.

He said 22 workers, whose coronavirus status was unknown, were quarantined in line with relevant health protocols and would be charged in court.

But Wike’s spokesman, Simeon Nwakaudu, on Sunday issued a statement that said the workers were all released without charge “following interventions by well-meaning Nigerians”.

The union said its statement referred to 21 Exxon Mobil workers who were union members, whereas Rivers State included the driver in its tally to total 22 people.

Exxon Mobil declined to comment on the situation.

The Petroleum and Natural Gas Senior Staff Association of Nigeria (PENGASSAN) said it had instructed its members to withdraw all forms of services relating to crude oil production, refining, distribution and supplies from Monday unless the Exxon Mobil workers were freed.

“Having achieved the primary demand in our ultimatum, we hereby suspend the planned industrial action,” PENGASSAN said in a statement on Sunday.

Port Harcourt, capital of Rivers State, is the hub of the oil industry in Africa’s biggest producer of crude. Sales of crude oil make up about 90% of Nigeria’s foreign exchange earnings.

Rivers State has recorded two cases of coronavirus so far. Nigeria has 541 confirmed cases nationwide and 19 deaths. The most high profile victim was the president’s chief of staff, Abba Kyari, who died on Friday.

Nigeria’s petroleum regulator has ordered oil and gas companies to reduce their offshore workforce and move to 28-day staff rotations, instead of the usual 14 days, to help to curb the spread of the new coronavirus.

PENGASSAN, in its statement, called on the government to “guarantee unfettered movement of oil and gas workers on essential services in all territories of the federation” so they could continue to provide services.

Cartoon monster helps explain coronavirus to Nigerian children

© Reuters/TEMILADE ADELAJA Nigerian filmmaker, Niyi Akinmolayan who created an animated video to educate kids on coronavirus, works on his laptop in his home, amid the spread of the coronavirus disease (COVID-19), in Lagos

LAGOS (Reuters) - It is hard enough for adults to get their heads around the coronavirus, but for children it can be even more difficult to understand why they can't see their friends or play outside.

That is where Niyi Akinmolayan's cartoon monster comes in.

The Nigerian filmmaker has created a 90-second animation to help youngsters understand why they have to stay at home after schools in Lagos were shut from March 23 and public gatherings were banned to stem the spread of the disease.

It tells the story of two siblings, Habeeb and Funke. Habeeb gets tired of staying at home and decides to sneak out to play soccer. His older sister Funke warns him not go out, but he insists, only to be confronted by a monster.

Akinmolayan, best known for directing "The Wedding Party 2", Nigeria's highest grossing movie, said he was inspired after several attempts to explain the lockdown to his 5-year-old son.

    "But he still didn't get it until I kind of changed the narrative and said the coronavirus actually looks like a big monster and it is out there in the street and if you go it will catch you," he told Reuters.

The message seems to have sunk in with some children who have seen the video.

    "My favourite part was when the boy opened the door and saw the coronavirus, the monster, outside, and he slammed the door and had to go inside, and now I know that this is not the right time to go anywhere or outside," said Ezichi Nwaogu, 9, watching with her sister at their Lagos home.

Akinmolayan made the animation through his production company, Anthill Studios, using a 10-strong crew all working separately from their homes.

It is being distributed for free and can be downloaded in English, Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa, French and Swahili. It is showing on some terrestrial television stations.

As of Sunday, Nigeria had recorded 627 cases of the virus and 21 people have died, including the president's chief of staff.